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🔕 The Silent Narcissist

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🔕 Silent Treatment

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When Your Narcissist Goes Silent

Dear Reader

Does Silence mean a Narcissist is defeated? Or are they plotting their revenge?

Self-centered people like narcissists, use ignoring as a way to hurt others. It's like they're pretending you don't exist. They do this for a few reasons:

#1 They Suck in having Healthy Relationships

Narcissists find it hard to be in healthy relationships. If they didn't treat you well while you were friends, they probably won't after you stop being friends, either.

They don't know how to deal with other people properly because they always think about themselves first.

#2 They Manipulate To Control You

Narcissists use the silent treatment to control others. Being ignored or left alone can be really painful.

Sadly, many narcissists know this pain because they've also felt it, and then they make others feel it, too.

#3 They Act Childish

Narcissists won't act maturely when things don't go their way. They might walk away, hoping you'll come after them.

They learned to do this when they were young and still do it as grown-ups. They ignore what others want and only think about what they want.

#4 It Makes Them Feel Powerful

When narcissists ignore others, it makes them feel very powerful. Seeing you upset because of what they did boosts their ego.

They want you to feel hurt. They don't care about your feelings, they use your pain to feel better about themselves.

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Moving On

Knowing why they act this way helps us understand that narcissists are not very nice people. They don't care for anyone else's feelings - they just want to hurt others.

Ask yourself: is this the kind of person you want in your life? Would they ever really be your friend or lover, see you as an equal, or be there for you when you need them?

You deserve to be respected and cared for. It's time to leave this person behind and find better.

❓ Questions From Readers ❓

How do you cope with the silent treatment from a narcissist?

Coping with the silent treatment from a narcissist involves self-care and setting boundaries. It's essential to remind yourself that their behavior reflects their own issues, not yours.

Pursue activities that boost your self-esteem and confidence. Reach out to supportive friends or family or consider seeking assistance from a mental health professional.

Avoid begging for attention or falling into their trap by feeding the silent treatment.

Set clear boundaries and remain firm. Above all, take care of your emotional well-being during this challenging time.

How long does the silent treatment last?

It's really hard to determine how long the silent treatment might last. It can be anywhere from hours to weeks, even longer.

Each situation is unique, based on the individual's behavior. I know it's tough, but try focusing on your wellbeing during this time.

What if they stop their Silent treatment? Do they have regret?

If they stop their silent treatment, it doesn't necessarily mean they regret their actions.

Often, a narcissist ends their silent treatment when they believe it has served its purpose, or they need something from you.

You should not interpret this change as genuine remorse. Remember, maintain your focus on your own wellbeing.

How do you respond to the silent treatment without giving the Narcissist the satisfaction they seek?

Stay cool and don't let it bother you when they ignore you. Don't go after them or try to make them talk. Instead, do things that make you happy.

By doing this, they won't get the reaction they want from you. This is difficult and upsetting, but the best way to deal with the silent treatment

I try to answer questions every week, if you want to see your question answered, hit reply and send me an email.

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That's it for this week, see you all next week.

Alexander Burgemeester

Psychologist and Founder of The Narcissistic Life​

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